When you and your partner have decided it’s time to split
up, one of the hardest conversations you’ll have to have is with your
children.
You may feel anxiety, guilt, fear and shame, after all your
children did nothing to deserve this.
How do you tell your child that their whole world is about
to change, and how do you make them see that it is not their fault?
There are six key messages that are essential for every
child to hear, understand and absorb. By sharing and repeating these six points
to your children in the weeks and months following the initial conversation,
you will enable them to better handle, accept and even embrace the challenges
and changes they will soon be facing.
Here are the six must-tell messages for your children:
1.
This is not your fault
2.
We will always be your parents no matter what
happens
3.
You are safe, and you will continue to be safe
4.
This is about making a change, not about blaming
each other
5.
In the end, everything will work out fine
6.
Mom and dad will always love you!
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then consider mediation. Mediation is the art of finding a middle ground
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