What to Expect from your First Time at Divorce Mediation

Divorce is not something that anyone wants to go through, but if it ever does come down to that, you’ll want to do it in a peaceful way.

If you have decided that divorce mediation is the path you want to take, then you need to know what to expect from your first time.

These tips will ease the stress that comes with divorce…

Communication – You may come into the mediation thinking that a vague description of finances, etc. will be enough; however there is a lot more information needed. A mediator will often look at other factors that are important, and you need to communicate clearly why something is important to you. By doing this you mediator can help find solutions to problems that you probably didn’t think of.

Financial Disclosure – It is always important to know exactly what your financial situation is before you make a decision. An informed decision is one of the most important factors that will ensure that your divorce mediation is successful.

Neutral Mediator – A mediator should never meet with one spouse without the other present, their main role is to be the neutral man in the middle. Information only given to one side of the divorce can turn into a bad game of broken telephone and end up compromising the mediator’s neutrality.

You’re Not Alone – Divorce affects more than half of the world’s population, so never think that you are alone. Mediators are there to support you in any way possible, if it is not in their job description, they will find the right person to help you.

The Future – When emotions are running high, it is easy to say something or do something unnecessary, especially in the heat of the moment. Take a moment, think about what is important for the future and take into account that a few months from now you will be in a completely different emotional state.

Everyone is different, meaning that every divorce will be different too. Choosing divorce mediation can be an affordable and peaceful way to solve your issues in this difficult time. Be sure to contact Cape Mediators today: email mike@capemediators.co.za or give us a call on 082 422 3324 to book your session. 

Is your Partner Cheating?

Marriages can be destroyed when it comes to cheating; this is why you need to know the certain signs that could catch your attention. Discovering your spouse is cheating is an awful experience; don’t make it worse by wasting your time and money on a lawyer – contact Cape Mediators today and we can settle your divorce in a peaceful manner.

Here are the 7 most common signs that may reveal that your partner is cheating...

Password Protection – These days it is vital to protect your phone, laptop, email, etc. with passwords. However if he is suddenly changing all his passwords or implementing passwords where he never was before then this could be a sign that he is hiding something.

Cellphone Guarding – If he all of a sudden starts spending more time glued to his cell phone and he won’t even let you touch it then something might be up. Some signs could include: sleeping with his phone right next to the bed, taking it into the shower with him, leaving the room to answer the phone when it rings.

Physical Appearance – Don’t jump to conclusions because this one could be nothing, but it should still be considered. Did he suddenly go from wearing jeans and a t-shirt to fancy suits and shiny shoes? Or maybe he’s wearing new cologne that you’ve never smelled before? This could be a sign of a mistress.

No More Intimacy – He may not reject your upfront, but when you reject him he may just agree with you instead of fighting them like he would usually do in the past.

Social Activities – Be aware when your partner is all of a sudden going out of town or attending social gatherings more often than usual. A business meeting or party is a common excuse! Also take note when he starts new hobbies without you, such as training three times a week for a marathon, but you never actually see him do it.

More Gifts – Partners who are unfaithful will try to cover up their feelings of guilt by buying you gifts. If you are surprised about how much your partner is spoiling you lately then you might want to find out what the reason behind it is.

Social Media Profiles – If your partner is cheating their social media profiles may start to look very different. There will be less photos of you two together and more solo shots or group pictures, this is a warning sign and you should be aware of how much time they’re spending on social media.

While these are the classic signs, it doesn’t mean that they’re always 100% accurate. Be careful to avoid accusing them and instead sit down and have a talk.