Planning your Wedding vs. Planning your Divorce

It’s basically a sin to say those both in the same sentence; however both require collective input as well as collective involvement.

Divorce is seen as a dirty word. It is ugly, feels pretty terrible and is not usually as well planned for as a wedding, but it is a reality in many of our lives.

There is life after going through a divorce and we can assist you in going through the steps in the most peaceful way possible. Simple call Cape Mediators on 082 422 3324 or email mike@capemediators.co.za for reliable, affordable divorce mediation.

A mediated divorce allows both parties to own the process themselves and not hand their destiny over to lawyers and ultimately to the court to decide the final outcome, which can sometimes take a few long and painful years. Mediation allows both parties to seek a mutual agreement whilst allowing the emotional standing of the parties to be processed. The mediation process has extremely positive healing attributes for life after divorce.

 “I’ve had enough” and “I just want this to be over with” are quotes that are heard far too often. Yes, you can sit back and just let the lawyers sort it out, but at what cost?

You’ll lose precious years of your life as well as a lot of money while the lawyers are busy lawyering. In reality life goes on and emotions can run high, affecting your work life and productivity. Do not allow yourself to take this huge emotional risk, especially if you have little ones to worry about.

Conflict is destructive, no matter what the circumstances may be, so afford yourself the opportunity to attempt to resolve it in a peaceful manner (mediation) and you will be thankful for the rest of your life.

What you need to know about Divorce Mediation in South Africa

When it comes to divorce, the proceedings that follow are usually unnecessarily long, expensive and full of negative emotions.

But why? Because one or both parties cannot come to an agreement about certain factors of the divorce settlement.

The most common factors are maintenance payments, child custody and the division of assets.

This is where mediation comes into the picture. Mediators are trained professionals who are often skilled in a range of mediation services including landlord/tenant mediation, labour disputes, mediation of contractual disputes and the most popular – divorce mediation.

By using a professional mediator, both parties will be assisted in putting aside their emotions and make decisions that will help to bring them to a resolution that is peaceful and accepted by both parties.

The process of mediation is confidential, private and saves both time and money. It also allows both parties involved to communicate with each and try and find a resolution based on their needs.

Would you really want to spend years of your life fighting over a divorce when you can contact a professional mediator and get it done within a few short months?

If you would like help or advice with a divorce please be sure to contact Cape Mediators today. Email mike@capemediators.co.za or give us a call on 082 422 3324 to book your session. Please note that our practice is based in Cape Town, South Africa. Should you require advice on selecting a mediator outside of Cape Town, please contact us and we will gladly provide you with a referral.

What to Expect from your First Time at Divorce Mediation

Divorce is not something that anyone wants to go through, but if it ever does come down to that, you’ll want to do it in a peaceful way.

If you have decided that divorce mediation is the path you want to take, then you need to know what to expect from your first time.

These tips will ease the stress that comes with divorce…

Communication – You may come into the mediation thinking that a vague description of finances, etc. will be enough; however there is a lot more information needed. A mediator will often look at other factors that are important, and you need to communicate clearly why something is important to you. By doing this you mediator can help find solutions to problems that you probably didn’t think of.

Financial Disclosure – It is always important to know exactly what your financial situation is before you make a decision. An informed decision is one of the most important factors that will ensure that your divorce mediation is successful.

Neutral Mediator – A mediator should never meet with one spouse without the other present, their main role is to be the neutral man in the middle. Information only given to one side of the divorce can turn into a bad game of broken telephone and end up compromising the mediator’s neutrality.

You’re Not Alone – Divorce affects more than half of the world’s population, so never think that you are alone. Mediators are there to support you in any way possible, if it is not in their job description, they will find the right person to help you.

The Future – When emotions are running high, it is easy to say something or do something unnecessary, especially in the heat of the moment. Take a moment, think about what is important for the future and take into account that a few months from now you will be in a completely different emotional state.

Everyone is different, meaning that every divorce will be different too. Choosing divorce mediation can be an affordable and peaceful way to solve your issues in this difficult time. Be sure to contact Cape Mediators today: email mike@capemediators.co.za or give us a call on 082 422 3324 to book your session.