Planning your Wedding vs. Planning your Divorce

It’s basically a sin to say those both in the same sentence; however both require collective input as well as collective involvement.

Divorce is seen as a dirty word. It is ugly, feels pretty terrible and is not usually as well planned for as a wedding, but it is a reality in many of our lives.

There is life after going through a divorce and we can assist you in going through the steps in the most peaceful way possible. Simple call Cape Mediators on 082 422 3324 or email mike@capemediators.co.za for reliable, affordable divorce mediation.

A mediated divorce allows both parties to own the process themselves and not hand their destiny over to lawyers and ultimately to the court to decide the final outcome, which can sometimes take a few long and painful years. Mediation allows both parties to seek a mutual agreement whilst allowing the emotional standing of the parties to be processed. The mediation process has extremely positive healing attributes for life after divorce.

 “I’ve had enough” and “I just want this to be over with” are quotes that are heard far too often. Yes, you can sit back and just let the lawyers sort it out, but at what cost?

You’ll lose precious years of your life as well as a lot of money while the lawyers are busy lawyering. In reality life goes on and emotions can run high, affecting your work life and productivity. Do not allow yourself to take this huge emotional risk, especially if you have little ones to worry about.

Conflict is destructive, no matter what the circumstances may be, so afford yourself the opportunity to attempt to resolve it in a peaceful manner (mediation) and you will be thankful for the rest of your life.

5 Important Things you need to know about Family Mediation

In recent years family mediation has been the preferred method to prevent and also resolve any family issues and disputes – this is especially important when children are involved. Mediation is becoming more and more popular because of the fact that freely negotiated agreements can aid in restoring communication, understanding and trust.

Here are 5 important things you need to know about family mediation:

> Choosing family mediation will help to resolve conflict and reach an agreement on the issues surrounding certain issues such as separation or divorce.

> Family mediation allows you to reach a mutual joint decision without spending months in court.

> Your partner or ex-partner can meet in a safe, neutral space with a professional mediator to work out your plans for the future.

> A mediator will never tell you what to do; they will only help you by looking at different options and ways to come to a mutual agreement. This will help sort certain things out in a peaceful manner such as the arrangements for children, finances and property.

> Family mediation is always a voluntary and confidential process.

Cape Mediators are professionals with a wealth of skills and experience in family mediation and conflict resolution. We deliver mediation at the highest accredited standard – If you are seeking mediation please call 082 422 3324 or email mike@capemediators.co.za

3 important factors that affect Mediation

Is now the time to attend mediation? Well, there are no specific times; however you’ll have to look at a range of important factors that will affect whether both parties can come to a mutual agreement.

Emotional state, gathering of important information and overall cost are the most vital factors when it comes to mediation…

Emotions – Parties involved in a dispute may experience a lot of emotions, especially when it comes to matters like children and divorce. Your emotional state can mess with rational thinking, judgements and coming to an overall agreement. Should you need the assistance of a professional mediator, always think about your emotional state first as well as the other parties involved.

Information – When both parties are trying to come to a resolution, outside information such as bank statements, pay checks and receipts are also needed. The mediation session will run a lot smoother if everyone has the correct information on hand.

Costs – Choosing mediation is the most affordable decision to make and you’ll avoid wasting money on attorney fees and court costs. Not only is mediation affordable for everyone, but it can take as little as a month to resolve the problem compared to spending years fighting over a dispute in court.

Remember there is no set time to mediate, but consider emotions, the gathering of outside information, and the costs of litigation when you are planning to contact a professional mediator.

If you are ready to schedule your mediation session, do not hesitate to contact Cape Mediators today on 082 422 3324 or email mike@capemediators.co.za

What is Family Mediation all about?

Family mediation has become a popular, peaceful way to resolve and prevent family conflicts, especially where small children are involved. Disputes that have been negotiated in an acceptable manner can restore trust, communication and understanding.

• Family mediation helps you resolve conflict and reach an acceptable agreement on all issues surrounding separation, divorce or dissolution of civil partnership.

• It is a voluntary and confidential process which helps you reach joint decisions without the use of courts.

• It offers you a safe, neutral place where you and your ex-partner can meet with an impartial mediator to work out plans for the future.

• Mediators do not tell you what to do, but help you look at different options for sorting things out, so that you reach your own agreements about all aspects of your separation, divorce or dissolution, including arrangements for children, finances and property.

Cape Mediators are professionals with a wealth of skills and experience in family mediation and conflict resolution. We deliver mediation at the highest accredited standard – If you are seeking mediation please book your session by calling 082 422 3324 or emailing mike@capemediators.co.za

Contact Cape Mediators today!