Why Mediated Divorce is your Best Option

Try not to say both wedding planning and divorce planning in the same sentence - please!

Both wedding planning and divorce planning require copious amounts of collective input, the latter however is often void of the same collective involvement.



The latter, divorce, is seen as a “dirty” word. Divorce looks ugly, feels terrible and is rarely planned for, however it is a reality in many people’s lives including the little ones.

As with marriage, there is life after being single, so there is too life after divorce!

A mediated divorce allows both parties to own the process themselves and not hand their destiny over to lawyers and ultimately to the court to decide the final outcome. The environment created by mediation is conducive to seeking a mutual agreement whilst allowing the emotional standing of the parties to be processed. The mediation process has extremely positive healing attributes for life after divorce. For professional mediation services that won't burn a hole in your pocket be sure to contact Cape Mediators today: email mike@capemediators.co.za or give us a call on 082 422 3324 to book your session.

“I can’t deal with this”, “I’ve had enough” and “I just want this to be over with” are quotes that are heard far too often. Yes, you can sit back and just let the lawyers sort it out, but at what cost? And by cost, I am not talking only about the financial aspect.

While the lawyers and busy lawyering, life goes on or both parties attempt for life to go on. In reality, all the emotions still prevail. Just managing to get through work and be productive is a challenge; this is a real concern and can place careers and businesses at a huge risk.

Transferring the underlying stress to other family members and loved ones is often unavoidable – this all comes at a huge emotional cost.



Conflict is destructive in any circumstance, so afford yourself the opportunity to attempt to resolve it in a peaceful manner (mediation) and you will be thankful for the rest of your life.

Do you want to refer a dispute? Whether it be a divorce, labour dispute or landlord/tenant mediation - Contact Cape Mediators today!

Are you being treated unfairly at work?

The workplace should be a place where everyone is treated fairly and with the respect they deserve. It should not be a place you hate going to because you feel like you’re being bullied or attacked.

Any kind of treatment that makes you feel like you are being intimidated or offended is seen as harassment. There are many forms...

-- Spreading hostile rumours about you
-- Treating you unfairly
-- Attacking you verbally
-- Undermining you
-- Denying promotions or training

Certain types of behaviour is seen as unlawful discrimination, if it is because of your...

--- Age
--- Gender
--- Disability
--- Marriage
--- Pregnancy
--- Race
--- Religion
--- Sexual Orientation

Do you feel you are being treated badly or unfairly at work? Do you feel that you may need help? A good mediator can help you out! 

Contact Cape Mediators today on 082 422 3324 or email mike@capemediators.co.za We can offer mediation in the workplace around disciplinary issues, performance, workplace behaviour and dismissals/retrenchments.

What Kinds of Cases Can Be Mediated?

Mediation is available in most non-criminal matters. However, some non-violent criminal cases, like those involving verbal harassment, often result in a successful resolution during mediation. Claims that do not involve a legal issue are also good candidates for mediation. For example, a dispute with a neighbour over an encroaching bush or the brightness of their outdoor lights is hardly the type of claim that merits a lawsuit. In this type of situation, it may be wise to seek mediation to end the conflict.

Mediation cases often involve conflict arising in divorce and child custody issues and in disputes between family members, neighbours, business partners, landlords and tenants, and labour unions and management. 

Advantages of Mediation

In some situations, mediation may be preferable to filing a lawsuit. Mediation provides the following advantages:

Confidentiality. There are a few exceptions, but what the parties say during mediation is confidential and not subject to the future use in a lawsuit. Court cases, on the other hand, are matters of public record.

Costs less than a lawsuit. Mediation cases cost substantially less than court costs and attorney fees.

Faster resolution than going to court. Lawsuits may take years to result in a court ruling, but mediation can take as little as a few hours or a few sessions.

The parties decide. The parties in mediation, not a judge or jury, decide on the resolution.

The parties communicate directly. Rather than communicating through lawyers, the parties speak directly to each other.

Do you want to refer a dispute? Cape Mediators can help you out - simply visit the website here...

Wedding Planning vs. Divorce Planning

Try not to say both of those in same sentence, please.

Both wedding planning and divorce planning require copious amounts of collective input, the latter however is often void of the same collective involvement.

The latter, divorce, is seen as a “dirty” word. Divorce looks ugly, feels terrible and is rarely planned for, however it is a reality in many people’s lives including the little ones.

As with marriage, there is life after being single, so there is too life after divorce!

A mediated divorce allows both parties to own the process themselves and not hand their destiny over to lawyers and ultimately to the court to decide the final outcome. The environment created by mediation is conducive to seeking a mutual agreement whilst allowing the emotional standing of the parties to be processed. The mediation process has extremely positive healing attributes for life after divorce.

“I can’t deal with this”, “I’ve had enough” and “I just want this to be over with” are quotes that are heard far too often. Yes, you can sit back and just let the lawyers sort it out, but at what cost? And by cost, I am not talking solely about the financial aspect.

While the lawyers and busy lawyering, life goes on or both parties attempt for life to go on. In reality, all the emotions still prevail. Just managing to get through work and be productive is a challenge; this is a real concern and can place careers and businesses at a huge risk.

Transferring the underlying stress to other family members and loved ones is often unavoidable – this all comes at a huge emotional cost.

Conflict is destructive in any circumstance, so afford yourself the opportunity to attempt to resolve it in a peaceful manner (mediation) and you will be thankful for the rest of your life.

Do you want to refer a dispute? Whether it be a divorce, labour dispute or landlord/tenant mediation - Contact Cape Mediators today!